To pretend to be compassionate, kind, etc. in order to manipulate someone else, often for the purpose of exploiting or swindling him or her. A form of deception common in romantic relationships and business deals. A slowhandler is different from a golddigger
primarily because slowhandlers are pursuing very specific goals, whereas golddiggers are after whatever they can get their hands on. Additionally, slowhandlers are usually more subtle and are not restricted to being female.
"What the hell? She left you? You guys have been going out for two years!"
"I know! Turns out she was just slowhandling me to move up the corporate ladder."
"I was only there for the free toaster, but that guy slowhandled me into buying a timeshare! Damn, he's one hell of a salesman."